Are you a people pleaser?Oct 10, 2021
My question for you today is, are you a people pleaser?
Do you go out of your way to do what everyone else wants? Do you need to get the opinion of others before you can make a decision?
Do you ever find after you get those opinions, you end up feeling more confused than when you started? Do you have conversations with others and find yourself saying things to make them happy?
The term for this is approval thinking, and the more you think this way the more you will go out of your way to please others and do whatever it takes for people to accept you. Now, there is a big difference between the desire to have people like you, and the need to have them approve of you.
The desire to be liked is normal, it is human nature and everyone feels this way. But when it turns into the need to receive everyone else’s approval it becomes an unhealthy characteristic.
The danger of approval thinking is that it can quickly turn into your biggest self-limiting belief, and it will get in the way of achieving what you truly desire.
As an example, you might be discussing a new working opportunity with a client and undercut your fee, resulting in your working relationship not benefiting you for the sake of them liking you. This is a big risk that a people pleaser and an approval thinker takes both professionally and personally.
You will find that being this person or dealing with someone like this can be very exhausting, and this is because you never truly know where you stand with that person. They’re never going to be totally honest about their emotions and you will spend your time second guessing everything they say and do.
The first step to fixing this is being aware if you are a people pleaser or recognising it in someone around you and helping them become aware of it. From here is the decision to stop trying to please everyone around you and living the best life you can.
In making this change, you gain a lot of power. It gives you the ability to put your focus back on everything you want to accomplish. This is exactly what our team of expert coaches are here to help you work through.
We are here to challenge your mindset and help you achieve your goals, so reach out to us today if this post resonates with you.